“I’m so tired of feeling nothing… like I’m watching my life from the outside.”
You’re not lazy.
You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You’re frozen and that’s your body’s way of protecting you.
The version of you that once felt alive, motivated, and creative? She’s not gone. She’s just buried under the weight of exhaustion, overthinking, and a nervous system that’s whispering, “I can’t handle any more right now.”
It’s okay. You don’t need to force your way out.
You just need a way back in.
It’s okay.
You don’t need to force your way out.
You just need a way back in.
What’s Really Going On
You’re in the Freeze Response the shutdown mode your body enters when it’s overwhelmed for too long.
Maybe you’ve been running on autopilot for months (or years), or maybe you just hit your limit one day and… stopped.
You might catch yourself zoning out, scrolling for hours, or avoiding tasks that used to feel simple.
Not because you don’t care but because your nervous system decided that stillness and disconnection were the safest options.
This is your body saying:
“We’ve been surviving too long. I need rest before I can rise.”
Your Strengths
You’re deeply empathetic, emotionally intelligent, and highly self-aware.
You feel things deeply even if you don’t always know how to express them.
You’re introspective and intuitive, with a natural gift for understanding others’ pain and potential.
Your stillness holds wisdom. You just haven’t been given the space to hear it yet.
What Keeps You Stuck
You keep waiting for the motivation to return but motivation only comes after movement.
You pressure yourself to “get back to normal,” but the truth is, you’ve outgrown that version of normal.
You might secretly judge yourself for feeling unproductive or disconnected, when what you actually need is permission to rest, regulate, and rebuild trust with your own energy.
You don’t need a new plan.
You need a safe place to unfreeze.
How This Shows Up In Life
Feeling emotionally flat or detached from things that used to excite you
Struggling to make even small decisions
Wanting to be alone, but feeling lonely when you are
Avoiding commitments or responsibilities because they feel too heavy
How This Shows Up In Work
Staring at your screen, unable to start
Avoiding messages, opportunities, or tasks
Feeling guilty for “not doing enough”
Questioning if you’re even meant for this path anymore
Trying to “force” motivation with coffee, pep talks, or pressure
Comparing yourself to your more “productive” past self
Signing up for new programs or ideas you never have the energy to follow through on
Pretending you’re fine when you’re quietly burning out
You can’t think your way out of Freeze.
You have to breathe your way through it.
Your next aligned moves:
Create micro-moments of aliveness. Step outside, breathe fresh air, or play your favorite song. Don’t chase big shifts, invite small sensations.
Move your body gently. Try stretching, walking, or slow breathwork. Motion reminds your body it’s safe to feel again.
Speak to yourself like you would a child learning to walk. Patience. Encouragement. Compassion.
Replace pressure with presence. Instead of “I should be further,” try, “I’m learning to be here.”
